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1 Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun May 11, 2008 5:24 pm

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Hello,

just a question I'd like to post to everyone out here, and see what you guys think essentially on the subject of whether or not girls and boys can remain only as friends?

I don't have many guy friends, and any that I do are from long long ago, like kindergarten and are almost like brothers to me. But I do have this one friend from my school, and well I thought we were friends, but he said something to suggest that he didn't think of us as friends, and that he wanted something more.

I got scared and hadn't talked to him for awhile, but after some time we're talking again, though it's not as relaxed and close as it used to be.

What to you guys think? Can girls and boy just stay as friends, and even if it starts out as friendship, does it eventually turn into something else?

2 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun May 11, 2008 8:21 pm

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Boys and girls can just be friends, but only if both people feel that way. Once one of the people starts to have romantic feelings for the other (they have fallen in love with you) then it is much harder to stay friends because there will be some tension when you are together. That is what you are feeling. I would just act like everything was normal and see if he can do the same also. It might take some time for things to feel "normal" again, but I would give it a shot. Just because he has a crush on you doesn't mean that you can't chat and do things together like you used to. But if he really pushes the "be my girlfriend" thing and you are uncomfortable about it, then you should probably stop seeing him.

3 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun May 11, 2008 8:21 pm

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I think guys and girls can be just friends. I have guy friends, and sometimes they annoy the heck out of me, but there are just friends. I've never really like liked them. I love them, but just as friends. Maybe for some people, guys and girls can't be just friends, but for me it's different.

4 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun May 11, 2008 9:22 pm

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I think it's possible, but BEST FRIENDS is not possible. The more time you spend with the other sex, eventually one or the other end up falling for the other....and that always ends in a way you don't want to. It's happen to me before.

I thought, I've spent how many years being friends with this person and all of a sudden he doesn't want to talk or hang out anymore, but you don't feel that way for that person so it's like you miss them but there's nothing you can do to make things go back to the way it used to be and eventually you become one of those friends called acquaintance.

5 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun May 11, 2008 10:06 pm

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i agree with whyanime

its kinda difficult to be bestfriend with boys.. he-know-all-of-ur-side friends..
at one point.. there is gonna be a point that u want to cross the line of being bestfriend into special friend i guess...

6 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon May 12, 2008 7:10 am

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I think it's possible for girls and boys to be friends!! All the relationship we have in life is not around attraction!! :!:

7 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon May 12, 2008 10:17 am

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Sometimes but is hard to keep the balance !!! Either you will make a relationship or he will hit on you or you on him and the spoil the relationship betwwen you!!!

His or your relation(girlfriend,boyfriend) will be a ptoblem also if there is jelousy

8 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon May 12, 2008 10:35 am

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guys and girls can be friends only but it is hard. They must avoid ever slipping into a romanitce situation. Reason being that once things go that way it is almost impossible for them to go back to the way they were.

9 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon May 12, 2008 1:14 pm

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Of course! My best friend for the past three years was Brian. We got along very well, better than I did with my female friends. We never saw each other as a possible boyfriend/girlfriend, but rather as brother and sister. Even now, even though we haven't talked for a while, we can easily just sit back and chat with each other.

I don't think gender plays a major role in friendship. For some people, it can hinder it, but for others it can help it. Brian constantly needed a female perspective for stuff, and that helped keep us close.

10 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon May 12, 2008 7:25 pm

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ohhhhhhhhhhhhcomon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
who said that!....of course no!!!!!
I think depends of the each person...but always the most of the time the guys don´t like to be a just friends....

11 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon May 12, 2008 9:13 pm

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A lot of my guy friend are just friends. I just don't feel attracted and I do believe they are not attracted to me. My best friends are girls but guys are interesting and add a new flare to conversation, sometimes even adding to the drama.

12 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Wed May 14, 2008 10:30 am

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I do think so males and females can be good friends...cos am talking about experience here..cos for me, i got a lot of male friends, its fun to be with them. They can hide super deep secrets.. and they cant be to bias with others.. really depends upon a person whom he.she would like to hang out right? enjoy !

13 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Thu May 15, 2008 12:48 am

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Its possible, im friends with several girls and no im not gay, so stop wondering, i have no problems with ppl who are, but anyways yes its possible

14 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Thu May 15, 2008 10:51 pm

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It definitely is possible. Big reasons are age gaps and already in a relationship. That's currently the case for me right now. My closest guy friend, with whom I spend half my day with already has a girlfriend (though in a different city). That's actually kind of nice for us because that means we can have fun and push boundaries with jokes knowing that it's ok since it doesn't mean anything more than the humour we intended it for.

15 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Fri May 16, 2008 12:04 am

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Guys and girls can be friends =O like I recently...well not that recently transfered schools and I had to make new friends...and the majority of which are girls and we're friends...but it's possible that one of the 2 wanted to befriend the other for a different reason...but Guys and Girls can definitely just be friends =P

16 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Fri May 16, 2008 12:11 pm

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yeah, i have lot of guy friends and we are just friends. To tell the truths, i have more guy friend then girl friend, because i don't really have anything in similar with the girl. i still remember in highschool most of my friend in the classroom was guy. there were only one or two girl and we talk about nothing but homework.

17 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sat May 17, 2008 2:18 am

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Um, yea. Like, I've been friends with guys all my life being the only girl in the whole family and growing up like boy and all that. I also had some that said that they liked me or something, but it all depends on you. If you don't want to go out with him and want to staay as friend, you better tell him that just like he told you (quite brave). I a no- experiencer, but that's my opinion the issue. But then again, if he gets....y'know aggressive or something close to it, you probabvly should ingnore him and get far from him.


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18 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun May 18, 2008 2:18 pm

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Definitely, a yes because you can share things that you wouldn't normally talk to your girl friends if you're a girl. If you ask for advice from a guy perspective it may help you more in knowing how and what they like.

19 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Fri May 30, 2008 3:17 pm

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sure, girls and boys can be friends, why not?
i have some friends that are boys or you could just play in a huge
group together. Well, if you don't like him then you don't have to
be friends with him or the other way around. but boys and girls can be friends.

20 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Wed Jun 04, 2008 8:35 pm

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if course they can. i have a lot of guy friends. they are nice. sometimes, they ask me if i can hook them with some girl that i know XD

21 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Thu Jun 05, 2008 7:13 pm

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i do think guys and girls can be friends. i have this really good guy friend and we get along great

22 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Fri Jun 06, 2008 3:49 am

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sure ~ if both have common interest ^^.

23 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Fri Jun 20, 2008 6:31 am

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Yes they can, but you can tell the difference when not to cross over the line and especially not feel tempted to do something immoral by being alone with them. If I have some boy friends then I would take along some girl friends and spend time with them, but not just me myself. Nor get yourself in trouble by start being a 'bud' to the boys because they do need to see you as a girl to be protected, cared for, and looked after. I know this culture now has a big... I don't know, taboo on seeing boys and girls together and just leaves them alone... that's the problem. I found too that I tremendously enjoy spending time with men because sometimes they are just so caring, kind, and nice to ladies; though, they are a dime in.... well lots of searching.

24 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Mon Jun 23, 2008 7:49 pm

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If one of them is gay. I use to think that maybe a girl and a guy can be just friends but usually relationships start off as being just friends. So unless one of them already has a girl/boy friend and is totally in like with them then, no I don't really think that that's possible.

25 Re: Can boys and girls just be friends? on Sun Jul 13, 2008 6:50 am

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both guys and girls can be just friends. i mean, i have male friends and we are just friends and nothing more. there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. most of the time, we just joke around or hang out... it's alright to have male friends... socialising is good for us!!

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